What’s up y’all? 

So I was catching up with my friend the other day, chopping it up about life and our non-existent love lives, etc.  I ended up asking her if she had any potential prospects.  She said “no” quick, fast, and in a hurry but then, she hits me with: in her next relationship, she wants to have separate bedrooms…she’s all about it!!  I was like hold up, say what now? Lol I’ve heard of such things, yet I was just surprised she would be interested in such a notion.  

Initially I’m thinking, that’s a hard no for me, yet as we continue to talk about her reasoning and of course chatting with other people I am starting to see potential benefits. 

My friend wants her own space to not be bothered…I’m starting to question if she really wants a relationship lol.

My mom’s throwing in her two cents, talking about it’s an age thing, and I get it. Folks get set in their ways, and a separate bedroom might be that sweet spot.  I found out another friend actually does this and sleeps in separate rooms!  Her reasons are for a better sleep quality because her partner snores.  Which I can completely understand.

Now, I did some digging and found some interesting findings.  Seems like snoring and clashing sleep schedules took the lead in the “why we sleep separately” Olympics. But here’s where it gets wild:

• Conflicting Sleep Schedules: 63% of Millennials and 62% of Gen Z-ers say conflicting sleep/wake schedules are why they sleep in separate beds or rooms.
• Snoring: 68% of Baby Boomers report snoring was their deciding factor.
• Intimacy Issues: 23% of Gen X and 28% of Millennials who sleep apart also reported “intimacy issues” were a significant cause.
• Mattress Preferences: Gen Z-ers were the most likely to say they wanted control over their mattress’ firmness or softness.
• Sleep Disorders: 54% of Millennials stated sleep disorders caused them to sleep separately, compared to only 22% of Baby Boomers.

Wild, right? Let’s keep it real, having separate bedrooms doesn’t necessarily equate a lack of intimacy.

Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, and sometimes, having your own space could be the move.

I mean, who doesn’t love a little alone time to recharge and do your own thing, right?  But hold up, there’s more to it than just having a spot to yourself.  It’s a whole vibe, and it depends on a bunch of factors. Are we talking about having separate rooms just for sleeping, or are we setting up a personal haven for Netflix binges and solo dance parties?  It’s a whole spectrum, y’all!

Now I’m throwing the question to y’all: would you, could you, do you roll with separate bedrooms?

Are you down for that type of situation?  Can you see the vision, or are you all about that shared bed life?  All the folks I’ve talked to mostly haven’t dabbled in the separate room game, but what’s the word on the street from those who’ve taken the plunge?  Is it more common than we think?   I even heard whispers about people living in different houses – now that’s a whole new level.